Terry and Sara,
It's so good that you have introduced yourselves and shared your concerns here. We will pray that the Lord will guide you to others in your area or neighborhood with whom you can enjoy fellowship and mutual ministry one to another as Hebrews 10 speaks about. Did you know about the registry section of this site? If you click on the registry on the home page you will find a registry of other house churches or folks who would love to be part of one. Please register there so others who may also be searching in your area may also be able to find or contact you.I was never part of the "two by two's" but I do know some folks who are. I have visited some of their meetings and felt that of which you have spoken. I felt there was a very rigid control exercised by "the ministry" the designation they give to their clergy or clerical class! True New Covenant ministry makes no such distinction between believers but recognizes from I Peter 4:10,11 that every believer is gifted for ministry and ought to minister to others as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.
Please visit us here often and let us know how we can best pray for you, encourage you, or help you in any way. Where are you all located?
We are all on a similar journey to yours! We have all come from one religious system or another where we have been troubled by unscriptural control and resulting bondage. Experiencing truly New Covenant ministry one to another as we simply meet in homes has been a tremendous encouragement to many of us.
The Lord will guide you as you purpose to follow the directions which he gives you. Some of the best counsel is found in the 7 words of John 2:5!
Your servant for Jesus' sake,
Bruce Woodford
Norwich, Ontario, Canada